Trust

It's the day after Christmas and I am not going to lie it had to be one of the worst Christmas Day's I have ever had.  We have all had those days when there are many family members and here comes DRAMA.  Knocking at the door and begging to be let inside.  So what do I do I let DRAMA come right on in and he (and notice I said HE) brings a friend called TRUST.  Yelp, here they come walking in like they didn't have anywhere to be except my life.

I have learned today that TRUST takes time.  I mean real TRUST.  I don't care if it's a friend, spouse, or child.  I immediately feel a connection with someone and for some oddball reason, I just assume they feel the same way back.  WRONG (Drama is laughing can you hear him?).   However, by the time I realize what I have done I have given away the farm, the livestock, and half the house (literally).  I am thinking WTH have I done.  I am kicking myself for giving too much to fast and wondering when will I ever learn my lesson.

So, I am a slow learner but here is the thing about this lesson, I am also human with a heart.  I do care about others and I do care how they feel.  I want them to trust me as much as I trust them.   I want them to feel safe but helping them feel safe does not mean you give them 100% of your trust immediately.  TRUST is earned and takes time as one wise friend told me not long ago.  It's not something that happens quickly and if there is distance it takes longer.

So even though it happened on Christmas Day, my needed and valuable lesson, it happened.  I am no worse for wear and now I know what I need to do to move forward.

I hope everyone had a blessed Christmas.

Rae💗

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